Last week we went to a catechesis session for S7 and I have to tell it here because I need to vent out. It was pathetic, ridiculous and nonsense to be in the same room, sitting apart as strangers and not even exchanging a mere hello but listening to a nun talk about the bible, the family and Jesus Christ. I know I was there for my S7, but why are we pushing for him to have catholic values in the middle of a D? Sometimes I think it would be better for me to just tell her straight I want S7 to go to a good private school and cut all the catholic cr@p we get in Seville. Maybe I am furious because that same education and traditional values are destroying me inside for being unable to give my children a "model" family. When the parent's session was over we waited for S7 to come out, she made a couple of comments but I was silent and calm, then she made a couple of calls away from me (again that secret-ism hurt me, I need to work on detachment). She said bye to S7 and we parted our ways.
Let me start by saying that I am not Catholic. I am not a big fan of that particular denomination. However, I think it is selfish to be tempted to upend your S7's life (switching schools is NEVER easy on a kid), just to ease your own conscience around what is happening. Pack, none of this is easy, but the one thing to always keep in mind is what is best for your kids. You can't fix what your W is putting them through, but you can always try to do what is best for them.
Keep working on detachment. Being apart from her and being detached from her are not the same things. Many LBSs get this wrong. "If I could just not be around him/her, then I could detach!" It is a false flag. A red herring. Detachment is about what is going on inside of you, not on what is going on around you. Hang in there man! Better days are ahead.
Oh, and congrats on work!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
