Scott, I am getting the sense of rationalization and "reasoning". IE, excuse making. "I am close to my son." "I shouted from the porch." Etc. Just something to watch. Remember, you are trying to become the best Scott you can be. If you were a right-fighter in your marriage that is something you will want to change for your next R. Right-fighters are miserable in life because they'd rather be right than happy.

And do not stick your head in the sand related to where this D is going. She is already showing signs of escalation. Having A lawyer look at something is not the same as having YOUR lawyer look at something. One is a friend, doing a favor. The other is a paid resource that will be honest, forthright, and upfront with you. I stand by what I said, you better hire an attorney.

If the agreement has no prohibition on travel, then why would you not go back? Read CW's post above about what standing for yourself looks like.

Scott, work on detaching from this woman. Get back to where you were a few posts ago. She is being difficult. You have a long-road ahead of you of her being difficult. If you let it affect you emotionally then you will continue to struggle.

Finally, keep all interaction with her to email. Like I said, she is already ahead of you on this front.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018