ICs are like anything else. Shop around until you find the one that works for you. And I certainly agree with changing ICs. Am I understanding that HE, the IC, wanted to date you? Or was he just telling you should date? If the first, then yeah that is a violation of ethics. If the latter, then he is just giving bad advice. Either way, time to find a better IC.
As far as the D, my advice is to not help nor hinder. What does that mean? You make him do all the work. If he asks about documentation, you point him to where the documents are filed (or if kept online, the account to access) but let him dig through and find the document or go online and print it out. You do not actively "resist" the D, but you don't help move it forward either.
Keep moving forward!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
