You are letting her light you up . Don’t engage. You are the only one to enforce your boundary. You can’t stop her from what she chooses to say or do, but you can chose how to handle it .
My ex boyfriend had a very contentious relationship with his ex wife. They communicate with an app, they have a court appointed parent coordinator and exchanged their kid at the police station.
Your relationship isn’t there. But one thing that always impressed me was how he kept his cool. He relied on the facts he knew to be true. He kept everything honest and real that he knew any ridiculous complaint or accusation that could made was covered .
If you know for sure that agreement said nothing about agreeing not to travel, then you have no reason to engage. You should be the one walking away, not her.
Calm cool collected responses if you are going to respond. “ I will have my lawyer look at the agreement to be clarified” done.
I was very explosive in the beginning. Emotional. I spoke on emotion. I yelled on emotion. I understand it. But learn that you can’t stop her from “lighting you up” but you can chose to walk away from it and not engage
