W did request in an email I respond in a "timely manner" to her emails/texts and that it was "pretty ridiculous" it took me so long to get back to her on the schedule adjustment. I ignored the comment and did not engage, but suppose she has a point - my delay (days, not hours) was partially because I didn't want to give up any time with the kids but also a bit of bitterness regarding the situation she's put us in.
I think some newcomers overdo in their endeavor to appear too busy to respond immediately. The other spouse will see through it pretty quickly. The point of "waiting" is so that the LBS isn't seen as obviously sitting on the phone, hoping to hear something from the other spouse. It's part of the "moving forward with their life" and the other spouse is no longer top priority. Sometimes, the LBS needs a little time to check with the board if he isn't sure how to handle a situation. I've seen some cases where it did get ridiculous. So, looks as if she has your number.
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Obviously I didn't see another soul in person during it, but even afterwards almost all of my friends are coupled off now and have less time to meet up spontaneously and also have other plans on weekends with family or other friends.
I remember how hard this hit my mother in the face after my dad died. To her, it felt as though all their friends were couples, and when my dad died, they no longer (at least the husbands) were interested in continuing the friendship. It happens in divorce situations, too. The dynamic of the old friendship changes, b/c one person is no longer there.
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This week last year we were enjoying a family vacation at Disney, and I had no idea of what was to come - it's hard to believe it's been a year since that trip. And such a bizarre/crazy/terrible year it's been. I'm just trying to keep moving forward...
We never know what life is going to throw at us in a year's time, right? You survived, and you will continue moving forward like a survivor.
I hope you'll keep posting, and post on other threads.
(((hugs)))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
