Sage, do you think he would do mediation? If you are not super knowlegable about your rights and the likely outcome of a D trial, you might get confused if you are directly negotiating with MLCilio.
You could also have a consult with an organization that helps women navigate legal rights. I forgot where you live, if I ever knew it, but in my city there are a bunch of them. I have gotten three great consults over the loooooong years of my D nightmare and they really helped me each time with a trajectory I needed to figure out. One time they set me up with a counseling session and gave me two bags of groceries!
The other thing you can do is post specific questions here. Between the fifty of us, we may know the answer.
You are a strong woman to be able to grieve a little WITH your H about your loyal dogfriend even when that dogfriend was such a symbol of the union that your wasband stomped upon while asking you to watch (as per my previous post!).
From my household of D, S and dog and cat to yours, hugs and empathy.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
