Thank you for your responses, DnJ, Gerda and Job. Really appreciated.
From the information I found I’m pretty sure it is indeed suicide. (Thoughts I read on the tributes page they made for her) She must have been a broken person indeed.
I can’t stop thinking about it. This is about a women I’ve never met, yet really feeling sorry for her and her family now.
And only 1,5 year ago I had sleepless nights thinking about my H and her together and my thoughts weren’t all that pretty back then of course.
Such a mixed feelings...
He replied back a few hours later:
“Thank you for your kind reply. I informed you because I thought it was important for you to know since what happened between us in the past.”
Told him: Thank you for informing me and if you want to talk, I’m here.
This week I’m having a surgery planned (nothing serious, but under full anesthesia) He never bothered asking how I would arrange with kids, work, if I needed help etc. and now suddenly:
“I know your surgery is planned for this week? Please let me know if I can do anything and inform me how it went?” (Can’t do much since he is 7.000 miles away...??)
I replied all is planned well and that MIL and sister are ready to help me out the first week with kids, groceries, meals, laundry.
There goes my boundary of going dark on him. Worked for 2 weeks though.
But simply can’t find it in my heart to ignore him now. This just wouldn’t be right and I would hate myself for it.
