Steve, I highly recommend that document everything your W is doing and noting the date/time. If you end up getting divorced, women like your W can be vicious and go for the throat in court. Protect yourself and your kids.
This was mentioned to you early on and I truly hope you have been doing it!!
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021
