[Rita]

Oh my gosh, Eagle. What a thing for you to face.

I think you handled it really nicely and consistently with your heart -- which is good when you have such a good heart. I wouldn't follow up though, unless he reaches out to you and you are still feeling open to it.

Read what DnJ said on my post about fear. There are many outcomes of what this will do to H, but none of them are in your control. This event can be triggering for him or it can feed his false narrative, you have no way of knowing. You did the one thing you can do -- you were kind to him.

In a certain way, if you think about it, were he in a normal state of mind, he would probably not even need to tell you about that. It's part of his very sad drama but in a certain way not necessary for you to know unless it was part of a reconciliation process.

From the outside it is clear that OW1 had some very serious issues that had nothing to do with H and that he was drawn to someone who was not well because that is what MLCers do. Self destructive behavior was the name of the game the whole time -- and it destroyed your family along the way -- her suicide is just a very hyperbolic and sad example of how self destructive she was. People don't do that over a breakup who are otherwise mentally healthy.

All we can do as LBSers in the face of all this destruction is to walk in the light and protect our kids as much as we can - and pray for all these lost souls, even when their lostness impacts us with such devastation.