oh i do wish i had found DB sooner - like 12 to 15 months ago!
if i had been looking i would have been wiser to what was happening and could have altered what i was doing towards my WAW, i pursued while she was distancing without me knowing that i was adding to her distance!
whether it would have stopped her PA i do not know, but i would have hopefully lessened the pain for me and my daughter! although i have read on here that we need to go through the pain to wake us up from the comfortable existence we have gotten into! to help us be who we really are!
i know hindsight is a wonderful tool? but i think that the help on these boards is as close to hindsight as any of us can get.
keep up the good work
Everyone wishes they had found DB faster. Heck, I knew about DB from my 2005 situation, but it still took my 2-3 days with my 2017 situation to remember it and start employing it. But that is life, we don't usually go "maybe I should learn DB techniques in case my S goes off the rails." So don't beat yourself up over it! Live and learn.
Also, it is never too late to start DBing. We have a saying around here. DBing may not save your marriage, but it will save yourself! So focus on saving yourself. Sometimes the MR comes along for the ride.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
