Help.

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I'm at the point where I'm able to purge and return back a number of her items. There is still more however I'm just going about this at a pace that feels good. I'd like to know anyone's thoughts on this letter?

(Again we share a 2yr old so keeping a healthy communication I think is important to me)


Hi.
While going through the house I’ve been coming across things that I believe are yours. I thought it would be best to start returning them to you. In the event some of these things are not yours feel free to gift them or dispose of them. Please know I’m not been vindictive I’m solely respecting your belongings as well as this is part of my process. As much as I love your taste and style passing these back to you now is the healthy thing.

-(me)

I would leave that out. I think as little contact as possible is the best route, but if you must send a letter be as brief as possible.

My best advice - pack it away and put it out of sight and don't mention it unless asked.

When X moved out I packed his things away (very nicely, even tissue wrapped some things lol) and put them in a closet. I recommend that. Wait for her to ask for her things unless space is an issue.

X came to me at some point, and I was able to say - all of your things from MBR are packed away in the closet. (He ended up with the home so they just stayed there until I moved out).

I don't regret that choice.

Stay on your journey, leave her to hers. Don't talk to her about your journey, let her see with her own eyes, or not. You are just doing what YOU need to do to move forward.

IMO - that is a good step for you!!