What she’s supposed to do and what she does are 2 different things. If she can not handle the kids, and if it’s too much for the in-laws can you two work something where you have them more often? I assume they are in some type of school correct? Can you get them when your W is working instead of allowing your in-laws who by your own admission are struggling?
What I think you’re having a hard time grasping is this isn’t just going to affect the relationship with the kids and their mother. It’s going to affect the relationship you have with your kids too. You need to be the anchor to their ship.
And it’s not as simple as “getting your balls back”. It’s as simple as realizing your worth and what you’re willing to accept in terms of how you are treated. It’s as simple as realizing your spouse is a lying manipulator that really doesn’t think anymore of you than she does the gum on her shoe.
Again stop focusing on her. Focus on you and the kids.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
