I know that you feel that your daughter has betrayed you, but you need to be careful when talking to her. The old saying "a dog that brings a bone will carry one". In other words, what you say to her, she takes back to him and vice versa. As for him moving to the city and being near you, I have to wonder how he can afford that, especially in the times that we are living in.
Breathe! Stay calm and do not complain about the judge. Do as your friend has suggested. You can get more with honey than you can with vinegar.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
