Irish, Im a newbie here but not a newbie in life. I disagree with every response you have received so far. Here is how I would have handled it:
You were worried XV was horribly injured so you answered.
[Ex SIL: Hi Irish. I've been wanting to ask you something for a while[/i]...[/i][/i]
Irish: Interupting-OMG, is XW OK, is she injured or dying?
ExSIL:Well, no but...
Irish: OK, call me if XW is injured or being. Thanks for calling
Then hang up.
Your stated purpose for answering of the call was to find out if something horrible happened to XW. When you found it it didnt the purpose for the call was over. End it.
What are they going to say, that you're rude. They hate you already, why would your waste your time?
That was telemarketing call. Nothing they said was going to be in your best interests. So stop it.
As for the texts, what are you saying that has not been said before?
Here's I read it:
XW:Irish, you are a poopy head
Irish: I can prove with irrefutable logic that I am not a poopy head. Exhibit A...
XW: I still think you are a poopy head.
Irish: Here are more scientific reasons why I'm not.
And so on and so forth.
Here is how I would have responded.
XW: Irish. stop trashing my family. You should be an adult and help. This is not right and you talking crap to my sister. It's not right.
Irish:(Crickets)
XW didnt ask a question, she made a factually incorrect statement. she is mentally unbalanced. Why would you argue with her.
Example. Irish is in the park, acosted by a crazy person, and gets into a argument. People do not say, hey thats the smart guy Irish arguing with a crazy person. They say, look at those 2 crazty people arguing.
How did you being polite beyond all reason benefit you. It didnt it just wasted your time. You are working to save lives, you need to conserve your energy for that.
PS: Here is a hint. If your XW or her family says you "should" do something, your should probably do the opposite.
