Yep what changed for me is beginning the IC with a hardline Dr that called my BS and also the fact that she actually just started a new "job" 4 hours away in LA. Yeah, that job is under the table for shady people and she lowers herself and my family name into that cesspool for money. I even told her that getting involved with stuff like that is below her, she agreed but yet she went anyways knowing full well that I could take care of us easily. She said she wouldnt want me taking care of her finances because id be telling her what to do or asking too many questions about her life. That hit me as her saying "I want to do whatever the hell I want, hang around and shut up and deal with it" She is sick in the head to actually do something that puts herself at legal risk. And so far from her 5 and 7 year old kids. Once I saw how little respect she has for me it hurt, but she doesnt even respect herself or her duty as a mother anymore.
She asked me to watch the kids yesterday stay with them at her moms so she could go to her new job in LA. I was like well, sure (the kids can be a handful on the grandparents and I owe them for providing the kids a good place to live). Thats when she told me about this whole thing. I just couldnt really believe that all this really happened. Today from work I called her mom just to make sure the kids were behaving since WW is still gone and they were (for once haha) and her own mom told me to stop helping her, that she is using me. Her mom went off on her for going so far away to "work" I guess and of course WW texted and asked me if i talked to her mom about her "new job" but I did not. I knew better than that. I am finally feeling good and not scared about distancing myself from her. The only thing I worry about now is when the inevitable question comes .."why arent you coming over anymore, or why are you ignoring me" and im sure it will follow with something like "thats fine other people wont ignore me" or some crap like that as usual (its your fault and ill punish you for not doing as I want game). I am mentaly prep-ing for now. But I do not call or contact her in any way, she does 100% of it and its all business unless she asks me to come over and hang out which I will stop doing since she has 0% intrest in reconciling and wants to be free to sew her wild oats, not being a part of that, no thanks.
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T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
