Trying to heal from WW

[97Hope]

Be careful not to take the blame for her cheating. We only control ourselves - with that being said:

I know i am a difficult person and i was controlling and i didn't try connect with her emotionally as i should have, she did try talk to me about her unhappiness but i was always too stubborn to make the change in myself.

These are things you can work on. Through IC, reading, this forum. Set goals for yourself to become a man only a fool would leave - AMOAFWL.

This is your time. Use it to be your best.

I believe this is all happening for a reason and i have been growing in my faith and reading alot these last few months. If it is in gods will then we can make it work, whether the divorce goes through or not.

I don't mean to be harsh - but this is happening because she is a serial cheater. God's will is never for us to be adulterers. This time can also be the most fulfilling spiritually if you focus on Him and not your W.

Since there are no children involved, I would suggest no contact, also. You might start making some changes and want your W to know about them, but the work you do is for YOU. Not her.

You will be ok. The pain is finite. I'm sorry you are here, but you are in a good place for support and advice. Read other threads and you will see you are not alone.

Stay strong.
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