It is what it is. We did not really know each other. I just caught feeling when I should not have... it happens. Won't make that mistake again.
I am not sure deciding who to fall for and who not to fall for is "a mistake" or something you can control. I think if you are dating someone and sleeping with them, the chance for falling for them is always there. Heck, Hollywood makes dozens of movies a year based on that.
Thank you for not making me feel like an idiot.
I think it stings more based on his reason for not talking with me anymore.
I 100% get that he feels that "I"m a married woman" and regardless of what the papers say I'm not going through a D because he's been through a D and I'm clearly not. That my STBXH footed my vaca.
^^^That's how he "feels".
Okay - my vaca was footed from joint assets I equally paid into and STBXH insisted I use (out of guilt and he clearly just doesn't want to deal with the timeshare and never did) STBXH is paying off the timeshare because of said guilt and he doesn't want me stuck with his BAD decision about the timeshare.
HOWEVER - when he stated I completely lacked empathy in regards to his dogs which are his "kids" I was floored. REALLY??? He went on about how I was not understanding of his work situation and all his stress at home. SERIOUSLY??? I left him with the impression I was not the least bit interested in getting him to open up about these things.
^^^That is where I hit my head over and over. I was VERY interested in him and knowing more about him.
He looks at me as a waste of his time. That hurts. All I can do is move forward.
Anyway lesson learned.
You are not an idiot. KC, as I said my observation is that you try to make your reality what YOU WANT it to be, and not what it really is. And that is what you are doing with this pilot.
The fact is that he didn't want more with you. Everything he said you quoted above is crap. Excuses not to continue with you. As others have said, he simply wasn't THAT into you. He liked your body. He liked having sex. But that was all it was for him.
Yes he said you didn't talk. That you didn't empathize with his dogs (doesn't even make sense, you are a VET!!). That you didn't understand his stress. GARBAGE ALL OF IT. Just like your WAH, you cannot believe a word this walkaway pilot says! He is saying what is convenient at the moment to get you to leave him alone. I hope that if you learned nothing else from DBing you've learned that you cannot trust the words that come out of person's mouth as they are sprinting for the exit of a R.
Chin up. New day. Live and learn, KC!
Last edited by Steve85; 01/23/2112:30 AM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
