He started talking discussing who all I was dating... was I a "player" on the 3rd date... do you really discuss exclusivity on 3rd date???
If you want to be exclusive, yes, if you don't want to be exclusive, no.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I am new to dating again and I thought that was too soon.
If it feels too soon, "No" is a great answer. I would encourage against trying to answer the way you think will please people, and instead to answer genuinely based on your desires. That will attract people who are seeking people like you! It sounds obvious, but it's probably why I get so many 1st and 2nd dates. Of course, your last two partners seemed abusive, so try to get therapy going before you date more.
But - had he just come out and asked OR if I was in a place where I wasn't feeling weird because frankly this was the SECOND guy I'd gone out with when I just started dating.
IF he had just come out and said something about being exclusive OR how I felt about when was a good time to discuss such things... I WOULD HAVE EXCLUSIVELY dated him. Frankly, I was playing it cool... I did not want to appear overeager OR too into him.
I had not dated in 12yr... I was such a noob again.
Look I accept that I completely blew it with this guy. And, there are no second chances when you only dated someone 6 times.
He was NOT perfect. He certainly had a lot of chaos in his life. He was not very clear on what he needed... I often took some of his texts to mean he wanted to not talk/space but then looking back perhaps he wanted to talk and I was not asking the right questions? I don't know.
He certainly had NO problem being clear in the END.
Why am I even rehashing this??? I'm just prolonging my suffering.
