Scout's Emancipation

[CanBird]

((( Hugs ))) Hi Scout, hope you've been able to get some sleep. Sleepless nights are the worst.

But to throw a spanner in the works, X said that FIL would be the one picking up S2. I’m not super comfortable with that because I don’t think S2 would go willingly with him. I would rather drive him myself than force him to go upset. On the other hand, if I was the one to drop him off, I don’t feel certain that S2 would be comfortable with me leaving him alone at SIL’s place either.

Scout, do you trust FIL to pick up S2? Will he be safe? I get how you feel, I really really do. And I hope that your FIL is a trust worthy person, a trusting grandparent. If he's a trusting person, IMHO, I'd accept the offer to have him picked up.

He has been crying when I drop him at daycare this week.

Those moments always tug at your heart strings. We FEEL for our kiddos and want them not to cry. I tell D4 that kids (and adults) cry when they don't have the words. I get it, and I know how you feel. Gosh, I've worked for a bit at a child care drop off at a gym, and had plenty of crying drop off. They always stop after the parents go, because they feel okay and feel trust.

I would crawl over broken glass to prevent him feeling alone and abandoned. I just hate that they’ve engineered this situation, it feels very unfair and insensitive to me, but I think it would be best for S2 if I just handle it all myself. Guess I’ll just have to sit with this anger for a bit.

((( hugs)))) Whatever you decide to do, it's your call. I was wondering the other day if they would offer to do pickup or drop off. Split the driving sort of speak. If I had to choose, I'd let FIL pick up and get S2 later. Kids parties don't really go on that long... The timeline is probably for those who want to drop by... "Come by anytime between 8am -5pm..." And you get to decide when you pickup S2. (Does he ever do sleepovers with extended family? Just curious... )
Whatever you decide, know that you're doing what's right for you. And I'm sure S2 will be fine with what you decide.

YOU GOT THIS MAMA!