Leaving it behind.

[97Hope]

Thanks, Thornton, Scout, Warrior & May!!! You guys are the best in the west! <3

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My attorney laughed at the letter and replied, "Sluttypants, Indeed!" Made me chuckle.

Well, I don't feel any different and I had a weird dream about showing up to my first day of duty and I was wearing brown open-toe chonklas and gray sweat pants. Yikes! lol (Alexa - remind me to wear proper pants on Monday!)

Had a text from X this morning:


"If you don’t have specific plans, I can pick up boys from school. Also, you got what appears to be a check from the XXX. If you give me your address, I can mail or I can have S19 bring it to you. Would prolly be around the same time. Just let me know."

No thank you. I will pick them up. Do you mind leaving letter in your mailbox and I'll grab it from there?

Sure. Should be able to.

Heaven forbid a yes/no answer. Let your yes be your yes! (Should I respond with that? I'm tempted!) Feels like a should opens up more discussion later. Trying to avoid that on my end.

His mailbox is on the way to the school. I will drive right by it, and S19 is out of town, and I don't really want to give my address. (I think it's a control thing for me).

S27 called and said that X has asked him about picking up the boys and S27 told him he would ask me, but X was insistent "No, no, I'll call mom." S27 asked what the word is for people who don't pick up on social cues.

Looking for a plan going forward that will help me grow and continue to detach and that will be the best for my entire family (within reason!) but you guys have been doing this for a lot longer.

Going forward, I think it would be best for me to plan through my kids, and leave X completely out of it. If he wants to see the grands, he can work it out with them. So I told S27 that and he agreed. I can't have this convo with X because it's pointless and will lead to a long drawn-out 'thing'.

I realize that some/most of you are dealing with Xs that are horrible. Mine is always "too nice" wants to be BFF's so I understand that this seems small. I realize it and at the same time, would love advice. As much as I get to a place of detachment - I'm not fully there. But progress is progress!