The lows an MLCer sinks too are shocking. It’s staggering to watch our spouse become and do things which are so far from their once loving character.
I am so glad to see you know this is not about you. When I could truthfully state that, it was more that I finally felt it wasn’t about me; I had known it for some time by that point. Our emotions coming around, solidify and give validation to our thoughts, which for me actually made me feel like I knew that - now.
This is the cusp of acceptance. The path of it becoming a belief, a conviction, a value, a core truth. Something changes within us when we believe and accept, and it is expressed in our thoughts, feelings, and actions. That spiritual path which affects and influences everything.
It is sad how one in crisis so devalues themselves. My XW had openly flirted with the high school boys, at the track met, with my son present, while living with OM. What an emotional mess!
Your STBXW is a troubled and lost soul. She unfortunately is upon a path which you, and really no one, can reach or alter. She must traverse her crisis, herself, and in her time.
We LBS have our path to walk as well. One which we, thankfully, are open to company and suggestions. It is good to see your notation of “STBXW”. Accurate and accepting. A big step along the path.
Stay strong my friend. Continue walking the good path.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
