And we keep moving on.

[Irish M]

Hi everyone, hoping you are all safe and healthy. Working with Health Canada, hospitals and infection control units my days go buy so very fast.

a small update. After the no message from Mother-in-law. Her message to me via FB that she recalled and deleted before I could read. Well, their must be a lot of chatter at the MLC side of that family.

I get a call from dear old sister-in-law. I first was nervous to answer. Thought something horrible might have happened to XW.

Hi Irish. I've been wanting to ask you something for a while. I finally got the courage to do it so here it goes.
Aren't you tired of having hate and anger tie you down? The weight you carry on your shoulders must be draining.
Why can't you forget what happened? I know it was awful and I was not one to agree what my sister did but time has past and we should all just move forward. My sister should see her kids.

Hi Xsister in law. I'm doing well thank you. They never ask how we are. This anger you speak of, who said I'm angry.
I'm well past that long ago. I might be disappointed in your sister but not angry.
I have no weight holding me down. I moved on and still making sure the girls are supported.
If their mom wants to talk to them all she has to do is call, write . message. She has many ways to do so. If she choses not to that is on her.

Well maybe they should call her. She would want that.

Sorry can't help. God knows I tried over the years but I have given up. They are after all adults know.
Have you tried to reach out to them? You are godmother to D20.

I tried 2 years ago and no answer.

Oh, 2 years ago. Tried once. I guess once in 5.5 years , the girls decided why bother.
Your mom hasn’t tried once. and finally messaged me but deleted it. You can tell her that she can reach out to me at any timee.

Irish, I think you should do the right thing.

I have been doing the right thing. Giving 200% of myself to them . Making happy memories. Your family have failed them. Don't put that on me. I get enough of that from your sister.
take care. I wish you and your family a healthy year . stay safe. good bye .

They have nerve I tell you.

Next day. XW messages me. Irish. stop trashing my family. You should be an adult and help. This is not right and you talking crap to my sister. It's not right.

Crap ? I spoke the truth . Sorry if it hurts. Giving me hell because I don't force the girls. You know very well you need to make an effort. I won't try to guide or help you, that door is closed. Your sister messaged them once. your mother zero times and you maybe 20 times in the past 5 years and more than half of those was to give them hell. Not one of you ever asked how the girls are. I've updatted you in the past and stopped when you asked me.

I did nothing wrong. As for connecting to the girls. You'll figure it out one day.

Oh Irish , you are pathetic. You should be an adult and tell them what is right.


Sorry XW, the girls will when they are ready. You however have the chance to message them or call them . You chose not to. When you are ready make a true effort. If they hang up well try again. Be honest with them, listen to them, if they give you crap well take it. They will need to vent their anger. Once that clears you can tell them how you feel. Without these steps you will get nowhere. I've raised the girls to talk about their feelings, not hold them in and ignore them .

Well, if its to trash me and call me names I won’t call or email them

your choice XW , not mine. So, take my advice as this is the last time, I’ll tell you. This is what needs to happen .
take care


so that happened last week. Hope she figures it out. She was not the same person I was messaging in October.

keeping you all up to date. Hope you can get what you can from it. Not an easy road for anyone.

Irish