AnotherStander you mentioned you're remarried. Is it ever possible that a second marriage can be as good as, or better than the first? Do you and your children still carry around so much baggage? How did you know you were ready for marrying again?
No I am not remarried, you may have read where I mentioned my daughter is engaged and thought I meant myself. I have a girlfriend, we've been dating around 6 years now but it's a long-distance relationship so we only see each other about once a month. We do have a wonderful relationship though, we have a lot of common interests and do some really fun stuff together.
I would say my kids and I don't carry any baggage over the D, we've all healed from it and moved on I think. It was a struggle for a couple of years though. We talk a lot about "cake eating" around here and not to let it happen, but I will say that I think my XW and I continuing to do things together with the kids (birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving, sometimes a lunch or dinner out) was instrumental in our kids accepting the D more easily, because despite the status of our relationship, we showed them that we were still united in support of them. It may not work for everyone but I feel like it did for us.
