Need advice on stubborn W

[SteveLW]

All these are pointing back to her old self;

I disagree. All those things are pointing to her wanting to cake eat. "I can live the single life, have my own place, etc, but still play family when I miss that part of my life."

AK, you should decline all of these requests. Letting a WAS cake eat is one of the worst things you can do when DBing. Unless, of course, you are okay with it. Some LBSs are. But since you seem unable to move forward with the D yourself, I am guessing you aren't in a place emotionally to handle the roller-coaster ride that is a WAS that wants to cake eat.

AK, as far as your self-esteem. Are you in IC? I know you had knee op, but have you been working out and eating right? When was the last time you updated your wardrobe? What books are you reading for self-improvement? Never stop working on yourself.