I guess I’m just going to have to hold firm to my boundaries and hope she learns.
They will fight you on the boundaries but in reality, they find it comforting that they are not allowed to just go out and do anything they want. They actually do appreciate on some level that we keep them from the worst excesses of their impulses.
Can't you ask the uncle if your ex knows and if it's ok with him for you to let ex know?
