moving forward and beyond #2

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Here's my question - Should I even mention this to ExH? My guess is like the last time, he will say some BS again to justify his behavior. I was so mad that I wanted to just call him up and ask him if he had drank too much. "Did you know that our son cried because he couldn't wake you up??"

But on second thought I don't know what it would accomplish.

You answered your own question, but if it will help, I'll tell you this.
I approached my X about drinking and driving with our 17 y/o in the car and he LOST it on me.
I told him "1 year ago you would be furious if you found out someone was drink driving with our kids in the car and now you are telling me I have the problem!?"

It accomplished nothing. Just more stress for me.

I told S10 that next time I will send you guys to dad's only when one of you has a phone just in case you need to call me.

THIS!! I ended up telling S17 that he was not to get into ANY car while the driver was drinking or had been drinking no matter who it was. Explained to him that I understood it would be difficult addressing this with his dad but he was old enough to do that hard thing etc.

I think you have handled this perfectly - controlling what you can. I admire what it takes to deal with your situation.