I used to protect my kids from the reality of what H is doing but I realized last year that it made it worse for them, it was MORE agonizing to not understand that he lies -- about what he wants, what he will do to get it, what it means for them, etc.
I was just writing about this on another thread to Taz.
It's like when the WAS lies to us, and we know it doesn't add up, but they keep telling us lies and we can begin to feel 'crazy'. I realized this about 1/2 way through - and since then I've adopted a policy of radical honesty. Age appropriate, don't share details, but honestly. It has helped them immensely.
My boys are older, but even the young ones wonder what's 'wrong with them' when they know things aren't adding up.
He is a scoundrel. Gerda you are dealing with a lot. I'm sorry he's doing this, and hope and pray that the end is in sight for you to get on the other side of the legal dramas. x
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
