So I put my big boy pants on today and had heart to heart conversations with S21 and S19. Told them about the pending D. I did not vilify STBXW, just told them that she seems broken right now and it’s up to her to seek the help she needs.
Told them that I will continue pray for her and show her compassion when the situation arrives.
Told them that they need to decide how they interact with her going forward and I will support their decisions.
Hope I did ok.
Taz
I think this is perfect. It's tempting to try and help but whatever you do - let them navigate their own R's with their mom.
Something I use (from my own IC) is "your relationship with your father is separate as is your relationship with me. I am here to love and support you no matter what you decide. (my sons are 27,23,19)
Good work, Taz. You are doing amazing!
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
