Having those open honest heartfelt conversations with our children is needed, and feels so difficult. I am positive they appreciated you being honest with them and confirming the pending divorce and the irrational situation with their Mom, which they surely can see.
Letting them know that you support them is excellent. They will need your support and guidance. It’s a matter of gently guiding them, while listening to their emotions and struggles. Grief is a process, with twists and turns, as one travels towards acceptance. Kids are no different, for they have lost something as well. Be their beacon who demonstrates how to be kind and cordial, compassionate and understanding, and live a great life. They will follow. Have faith and believe in yourself.
Very good not demonizing or vilifying Mom. Remaining calm and open encourages the kids to reach out to you. In time, I suspect they will ask many questions. Continue being open and honest in your response. Strong, stable, and non-disparaging towards Mom will serve you and your family well.
Good job Dad!
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
