Leaving it behind.

[97Hope]

Hi Joe - Yes, going into LE. Couldn't pay the bills as a housewife/ranch hand! lol Thank you for the tips! All excellent advice. Re: passenger side contact - I'm def. concerned about getting hit by a car. Probably all the videos they showed during traffic. Yikes! People really don't pay attention to where they drive.

RE: dating - nope. There is a thing my uncle used to say - I've not been able to find it but it's like "Don't ride your mule, don't work your horse" ?? I wish I could find the original. My dad always said "non sputare nel piatto dove mangi" lol AKA don't get honey where you make the money. Wise words!

Mumin - Thanks! I'm glad I start this week so if they wreck me I have a few days to recover. I'm looking forward to getting stronger. I think will help with my mood, too. That's the hope.

LH - - it's amazing how much they notice even when we don't think they do. I've found a more authentic relationship with them all now that I'm not trying to 'protect' their dad. And I have a lot of free time since I stepped out of the role as XH's Image Management Consultant. I don't trash him, of course, but I don't say a word when they get into it.

I learned late that I had no business interfering in their relationships anyway. I always thought that we built each other up in a M and that I was being loving and supportive when I was on my X's 'team'. Part of my more painful growth periods. Realized I was garbage at validation to my kids.

Consequences. My adult kids are having a lot of struggles with X. No, D doesn't destroy them - but it has a profound impact on the the R between kids and parents. It's been my observation that it strengthens with the LBS & deteriorates with the WAS in a lot of situations.