WAW Hired a Divorce Coach (Cont6.)

[97Hope]

It’s about me feeling stronger, seeing her more clearly, and realizing what has happened here.

...she tried to rip me down and control and manipulate me gave me clarity. I don’t want to be with someone like that. She is not the prize.

I’m free, I can do what I want with my kids, I can hang out with my friends the way I want, I can have friends over, I’m not under constant scrutiny. I’m not going back to that crap. I know i still need to recover and get stronger, especially when it comes to dealing with her, but I’m moving to a space where I can say that what is happening in my life is what i want to happen in my life. I don’t want to be with the woman i was married to. She’ll have to change if she wants me back. And if she doesn’t want to change, I’ll find someone else if I want to and I don’t think I will make these mistakes again.

Hold on to this with both hands and don't let it go!! Keep it close by when she reaches out - and she will!! Remember it when she temp checks. Don't share this with her. No more R talks. Just actions.

Know that some days you might not "feel" like this - but feelings are finite.

This is strong. Stay strong.