You have been getting spectacular advice all along Steve.
At least try to listen and follow some of it. Make a decision every day.
There’s sure is a lot you should be doing but other have already told you and I am not sure you will listen.
But please Steve, try and go NC with her now. Real NC.
No communication at all! If she goes crazy, ask her to send emails if absolutely necessary.
Aim for a month (at first) and do AT LEAST a weeks stretch to begin with. Please Steve, please!


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021