Now that you've told her what you will and will not tolerate, I would HIGHLY suggest NOT having any more talks with her. I would also not spend any more time with her.
Consider this a lesson learned the hard way.
Maybe you could read your thread back and look a the advice given and see where the vets were coming from and what you did/didn't do? In the book, MWD talks about doing what works and not doing what doesn't work.
Sometimes it helps if we can see it with our own eyes.
Pay attention to her actions (seeking attention on FB) NOT her words. She is telling you who she is, so now it's time for YOU to decide how you want to live.
Once you truly let go of the fear of D - everything will change. You will make choices that are good for you and your kids and not what will "get her back". I can't recall a single sitch that involved 'nicing' the W back. I doubt you will find any. The only way forward for you is to work on yourself. You are a badass. You've just forgotten. Yes, soldier up and move forward!! You can do this!
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
