Steve_Treading Water

[SteveLW]

Steve_, where I see you struggle is when you WANT to do something you shouldn't, like helping her move. You were able to talk yourself into it to "help get your kids out of OM's house". What you fail to see is that these are little tests for your WW. To see how much she wanted out of OM's house. To see how much she really might be interested in a future with you. More than likely your discussion with her leading up to her moving went something like this:

Her: "I want to move out, it is over with me and OM. I want to know if there is a future for you and me."
You: "Are you really going to move out?"
Her: "Yes, but I have no where to go but to my parents."
You: -deep down excited, not for the kids but for yourself- "When are you moving?"
Her: "I'd like to this Sunday, but I don't have any help." or "I'd like to this Sunday if you can help." Depends on how subtle she was trying to be.
You: "Yes, I can help!"

I know there may be variations in how it went, but the point is that she was trying to manipulate you into rescuing her.

Imagine if:

Her: "I want to move out, it is over with me and OM. I want to know if there is a future for you and me."
You: "I can see you feel strongly about it being over with OM"
Her: "Yes, it is over, I want out but I have no where to go but to my parents."
You: "I can completely understand, I was in the same place just a couple of months ago.
Her: "I'd like to move this Sunday, but I don't have any help." or "I'd like to move this Sunday if you can help." Depends on how subtle she was trying to be.
You: "I will be glad to take the kids (if you don't already have them) so that you can take care of your move." or if you already have them "I have made plans for the kids and me for Sunday. Let me know when you are moving so I can make sure my schedule allows me to take the kids that day."

Nope, she snapped her fingers, Steve_ jumped again.

You continue to avoid my question: WHEN IS YOUR NEXT IC SESSION?