MTB I get it, and Joe im not saying your wrong either.
I said that comment about digging up the past because I was there to move furniature and get my kids out of that apt with OM and his kids not talk about the R. I have made it clear to her that what she did devastated me. She has said "I f'd up your life" she is aware of how painful what she did was to me, the kids and after her FIL ripped her a new one when she returned, to the rest of us. I wasnt there to cry a river about my pain or to recon, I was trying to get my kids to a stable environment. I can see how in the different context it can seem different.
Each time her and I have had issues I do 100% effort to reconcile I begged, pleaded, jumped over my own head. This time I do not call, I do not text, I do not make plans. I do nothing but my own thing. (I will be reading over your stuff Sandi, I will be taking this very very slowly and carefully).
She makes all the calls, texts, asks me to come over, talks about the future, tries to talk about the R, I do not. I will not. And still I do not trust her or believe anything she says. She is confused and Im a framiliar man she can trust im sure thats all it is for now. Time will tell but I do not hold out hope she will truly change. But we will see, some people do when enough of thier life is messed up, when they hurt enough people. But still, I dont hold out much hope for her at this point. I never want to be thrown away like I was again, never want to feel what i went through again, I will be EXTREMELY careful with myself. I have my own life now, I do not need her, the fact she gets any of my time is a blessing that she does not deserve, And that's how I see it right now.
Last edited by Steve_; 01/15/2108:34 PM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
