Leaving it behind.

[may22]

Hope,

I believe:

- infidelity is wrong and hurts more than just the two people in the R.
- honesty is critical for a healthy R.
- trust is earned by behaviors over time.
- we can grow from (censored) experiences.
- this does not define me.
- I am a separate independent person who does not need a person to feel complete.
- peace comes from allowing others the freedom to make their own choices in life
- accepting others for who/what they are is love.
- boundaries are loving and necessary in any healthy relationship.
- no matter how dark the night feels, it doesn't last forever.
- we can find contentment in any circumstance if we choose to.

I love this. It all resonates so much with me. I'm copying it to my phone.

Thank you for sharing it... and you're amazing. You're being brutally honest with yourself and are sharing all of that here. It is okay to not be 100% detached yet but you are making so much progress, it is inspiring to see. I mean, who wouldn't have an evil little grin when their x is texting you inside jokes etc? And an evil grin is faaaar more detached than a racing heart and thinking OMG does this MEAN SOMETHING?? I'm sure there are people out there who never have that evil little grin stage but they probably aren't much fun

Sleeping with him as part of a FU to the OW or marking your territory-- eh, we've all been there. i mean again, I know people exist who can turn it off with a flip of a switch as soon as they find out their S cheated or maybe cheated, but those folks probably aren't here on the DB boards! Forgive yourself, you know what direction you want to take for yourself going forward and it isn't that one. You got this.

xx M