I was sitting here like an a$$ waiting for you so I had to eat the whole platter.
Ha! I almost shot coffee out my nose!
Oh Gerda, you sound, and are doing, wonderful.
Hire that magic footed handyman and get a new sump pump installed. And a moisture detector/alarm like May brought up. That way it can notify you when there is the start of a water problem.
Perhaps you want to look into a more solidified arrangement with the handyman. He is local to the cabin. If he had a key, he could fix or look after something with but a phone call.
Originally Posted by Gerda
Well, shiver me timbers!
Very apt.
Amazing that H agreed to mediation. Too anything really.
Your letter and subpoena got him through the door. Mediate gently. Let him feel he is proposing that which you are after. I suspect, he wants it as well, it’s become a matter of stubborn pridefully saving face for him. Kind of looks that way with his list of conditions. (He can’t look too agreeable. Although he is happy to work with whomever you suggested. Lol. MLCers. SMH)
Yeah, MLCers do lie don’t they. H’s lying about speaking with the mediator the day before is part of that habitual make believe they tell themselves. They are living a lie! Only when outside events or pressures force them to see the truth do they have to alter their self written narratives. Blow up, run, lie some more, cover up, or whatever. In this case, cover up. H probably meant to call the mediator, and got side tracked, depressed, whatever, and again doesn’t want to look bad (more to himself by the way).
It will be interesting to see what he has in mind. You did set out the ground rules or objectives rather plainly in your letter. This does look like progress in the right direction. It took three years, slow, yet still progress.
Enjoy the movie and game night with D11.
Have a great day my friend.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
