Yes. He does. Now, he's not allowed in my inner circle, but I love him from this safe life I have created.
What does this inner circle consist of? Sounds like he was in your inner circle on November 21st.
This is what I discussed with my therapist today.
When I'm honest with myself - Nov 21st was a big giant F.U. to OW. At the time I had a suspicion but nothing proven. After I found out for sure (last week) it confirmed my feelings that night.
Deep down I knew that was the last time.
Inner circle = trust. emotionally. X is NOT in my inner circle.
It's taken a long time and I'm not completely detached - but I have been able to be intimate with him in the past without any expectation. But the second I find out there is OW - I'm out. Never again. I don't sleep with other people's people.
Therapist said today "do not empathize with unsafe people. X has proven himself not to be safe."
Time to explore that and remain true to my beliefs and values.
I left X in my inner circle for too long. The peace that I have is that he violated my trust - so I don't regret it, just need to learn to trust myself more. Which is another process.
LH. I appreciate you!!!
Last edited by 97Hope; 01/15/2101:42 AM.
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
