She said she is afraid that I wont be able to let it go and if she does anything wrong ill explode on her and bring up OM and so on etc,
Straight out of the cluster B users guide. Steve, do you see how if she makes herself the victim, then she's not accountable?
Instead of her saying "Steve, I hate myself for all the selfish things I've done in our relationship. I don't deserve you and I'm going to therapy to figure out my issues", she is saying "Steve, I know I cheated again and I don't to be alone while I look for another guy. My only concern is that you will be angry with me while I look for your replacement."
