Why do you think her life is going to be so awful and she is going to hit rock bottom because she is going to work? Why do you think she is going to fail so hard and be miserable at the work life balance?
This is going to sound harsh, but it seems like you really liked her being dependent on you. You wanted her need you for everything and to be her hero. Were you hoping that would keep her from leaving ? It seems like your hope is she will hate being not being dependent on you and want to come back. Your identity is totally wrapped up in being the caretaker for your wife. Not a husband and a partner. And it seems like you would love to go back to this. And it also seems like you hope she hits rock bottom in her new responsibilities so she will come back.
