Court dates in uncontested divorces are completely normal, and are simply a formality. My understanding from friends and family that have been through it is that it is simply a matter of the judge asking both sides if they are in agreement with the written agreement. If both say yes (or one party doesn't show up) then there is nothing left to do, the written agreement becomes the official agreement of record, and that will be the final court appearance.
One word of caution, I think you've said you still have a couple of joint credit cards/accounts, and that is how you knew when he went with OW to a few places. Is that still the case? Because I've known people that have been D'd and agreed to split the debt, 50/50. But when the other S defaults, the bank comes after the first S for the whole amount, and no amount of telling the bank about the divorce decree mattered. So make sure you are protected.
That's just it... we have no agreement at this time. We have negotiated NOTHING.
I just filed a formal petition of dissolution and hired an accountant to do a valuation on an asset for numbers. Once we have that its just plug and play and I've provided my atty with a detailed list of EVERYTHING as well as what we have already agreed to.
And yes, we no longer have joint cc. However one of his cc's is linked to my email address??? I have no idea how that happened. I'm certain I'm no longer an authorized used on the card but will pull a credit report this week to see if that's the case and then maybe I can contact cc directly without going through STBXH.
The nexflix account is with his email address/name but paid for out of my acct... I use it all the time so trying to figure out how to change user names without having to delete acct.
Outside of that there is just the cell phone bill which I can log onto and pay my portion - because our account is SOOOO old we are grandfathered in at significantly lower rates with over the top service. If they segregate me out to my own plan its a super duper rate hike. That is our only connection at this time. Additionally STBXH will have to be one to release the phones - I cannot call do to so as I have tried once before.
That is our only connection at this time. Additionally STBXH will have to be one to release the phones - I cannot call do to so as I have tried once before.