Job, both you and cadet have been radiant presences in so many lives. I can't thank you enough. Your instincts about my hesitation was spot on!
It's strange how no one can truly understand us outside of this site. When I speak to my mom now, whom I love dearly and is a great mom, I know better than to speak of my love for xH. I know it would pain her because she hates to see me in pain. My brother, with whom I was close, no longer wants to talk. (He's got a lot on his plate; he also had an affair and was separated from his wife for years.) The one friend who was willing to listen to my DB thoughts shut down after two years, post-covid. I am grateful to all of them and hope I did not try them too sorely
I think everyone else loves us too well to want to see us disappointed. Here, we pool our great love, and the hurt can, one hope, be transformed.
