Based on the previous messages, I assume I let her struggle with the work life balance and hit rock bottom as I continue to do my thing?
Yes, let her sink or swim while you take care of you and yours.
Originally Posted by Scott
I fear that if I don't help her, if I'm not her friend, it will push her further away and into the arms of someone else.
On the flip side, she doesn't have to experience a complete loss if Scott remains her BFF and a backup option even as she explores OM and other changes. If my partner and I had remained adventure buddies after breaking up, it's more certain we'd be in each other's lives long-term, but less certain we'd have reconciled. What you'd do if an OM shows up is a key question. I wager if you'd stop being BFFs then you should stop now, but if you'd continue as BFFs thinking it's better to have her in your life in some form than not, it makes sense to continue. Tough choices. Takes your time to figure out what's right for you.
