Steve85 - I hear you. I don't know how you actually "prepare" for it. I mean when it happens, I can imagine the rush of emotions - sadness and rage. All I can do is continue with the things I am doing to the best of my ability and really work not to get sucked into her world - that is really freaking hard, because of Fear. I fear that if I don't help her, if I'm not her friend, it will push her further away and into the arms of someone else. I think there is an inevitability of it happening anyways, but of course I don't want to push her that way.
CW - Thats a good thought, that they sit with whoever has custody. If that doesn't happen then I could bring that up after the fact to my STBXW because it is going to cut both ways. And of course my wife is welcome to sit with us, I just don't think she will because she doesn't like my friend.
This was a friend that I've had longer than her, that she had forced me to cut out of my life because she believed his wife was spying on her when she was having her affair and then spreading rumors about her (which didn't happen - but if it had happened, the rumors would have been true). ---------------------
Anyhow, I just learned that my wife accepted a new job and starts on 1/25. That is going to bring a world of hurt for her and be a massive change in her life. Tomorrow during mediation I'm sure to find out how much her income is, I hope she crushed it!!
Based on the previous messages, I assume I let her struggle with the work life balance and hit rock bottom as I continue to do my thing?
