Scott, this is what we are trying to help you prepare for. Your kids feeling in the middle. Her introducing an OM. Those are things that will set you back unless you brace yourself for their inevitability.
More than likely, your kids will come back to your house after being with W, and suddenly will mention X where is X is a man's name. We've seen this dozens and dozens of times with LBSs. Some get upset because they had verbal agreements in place not to introduce other people to the kids until they discussed it. But WASs rarely ever live up to those types of agreements. And you have no control over that.
Also, most LBSs use that as an excuse to be upset about OP, even though what they are really upset about is that there is an OP to begin with!
LH and I have been trying to get you to understand that this eventuality is coming. It is highly unlikely that she left the MR in order to spend the rest of her life alone. Though I do know one woman that did that and hasn't even dated since she left her husband and has concentrated on being the best mom she could be. Most WASs especially in your age range have the idea of a future OP in mind (if not one already in the picture)?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
