R2C - Yes, you are right. Giving her the consequence of the 50/50 parenting plan makes sense. I am obviously trying to nice her back as you pointed out because it feels good.
I haven't felt manipulated recently. I haven't dealt with any new BS, but that will probably come tomorrow. I think I'm doing pretty good work overall but I am holding on and struggling to let go. I continue to tell myself to let go, but its not easy.
I'll see her Friday at my son's lacrosse, I'll get there first and I'll sit with a friend of mine that she doesn't like. She'll keep her distance. My friend and I will have fun at the game. It will be interesting to see what my daughter does, I imagine she'll feel like she's in the middle if we aren't sitting next to each other.
And LH is right, while I'm all BFFing I will be destroyed if that's what I do and she shows up with an OM.
