Is it possible to wait 2-3 wks and offer to take him out to dinner as I "owe him some conversation over a meal"?
I know you really struggle with dropping the rope, but this would be a good time to practice. Just accept that it's over, that he's not interested (I'm not sure he ever was beyond having a booty call) and that you need to move on. I would not contact him at all, not now, not 2-3 weeks from now. Believe me he is not checking his phone 10 times a day to see if you messaged him.
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Looking back at texts from early dating he hated how quiet I was and felt I hide behind the term introvert... obviously it just takes more time for my wall to come down... the sad part is I was like 98% there... UGH... if he could have just been a little more patient with me.
Don't be ashamed of who you are, and don't change yourself to conform to some image of what someone else things you should be. If you are quiet at dinner, so what? If you don't open up and share your deepest, darkest secrets right away, so what? You do you, and if a guy can't accept you for who you are then you do not want or need him in your life. My girlfriend is like you, it's difficult for her to open up. So I've learned to ask a lot of questions and be very patient. If a person really cares about you then that's the least they can do.
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This is just not something I do with personal relationships... its me across the board.
I'm not sure that's such a healthy thing though! I would rather my dogs' vet be getting a good nights' sleep than laying awake tossing and turning at 2am because of some ailment one of them might have, in fact that might give me anxiety because if my vet is up half the night then it must be something serious! Likewise I don't want to think my girlfriend is laying awake at night contemplating our relationship, that would be a lot of pressure if I knew she was doing that. You know?
I get it - he's a jerk.
Its just that I'm NOT usually THAT quiet... AND I was really warming up to him... Looking back I don't think this was just a booty call thing... I think I totally mis-judged that.
I get it - its too late. Can't go back and change the beginning but was hopeful I could change the ending. But, you are right. He is not interested in wasting any more time.
