Sending videos of the kids puts you in FZ. Do you want to be her friend or her lover? If you become her lover again, then sending her videos of the kids is fine.
She is the one that wanted a 50/50 parenting plan. Not you. But part of your job is to give her natural consequences of her choices. Missing 50% of the kids experiences.
I believe you are using the wrong measuring stick.
Originally Posted by ScottB
she walked out and was nice.
You are using HER behavior.
The measuring stick should be YOUR behavior. IE "Did I respond/interact with her the way I WANTED/NEEDED to?"
Did I stand up to her? Did I not get manipulated? Did I act like LH19 would? Did I validate like Coach would? Did I call her out on her BS in an effective way?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
