R2C - I agree that recalling all the negatives and remembering the relationship through the appropriate lens is where this transformation will happen.
I had the kids the last two days and the time flew by. I can't believe I don't have them for the next two days already, just crazy. We had a lot of fun but it went fast.
And with my STBXW, I can manage it as long as I don't see her. I saw her today and I don't know what you want to call it, emotional connection or chemistry or whatever, but when I see her I just feel love for her. I hate it.
I played it cool today. I didn't temperature check. I imagine she is being nicer because she is feeling that I'm moving on and I shouldn't read into it at all.
Example: My son has a gluten allergy and I was looking for flour for him but couldn't find any. She bought some for me and gave it to me today. That is also the first time that I've pulled up to her house and she walked out and was nice.
I think if LH and Steve were watching me day to day they would tell me to keep doing my own think, to continue to work to detach, and to stop texting her. Over the past couple of days she has texted me related to the kids or different things and I've replied with an answer and then with a video or picture of the kids snowboarding as we've gone and they have really improved.
Tomorrow we have another mediation session. I'm not looking forward to that at all.
