I am coming to terms that my STBXH was a sh$try person... it's not that I didn't know it's that there were/are some amazing things about him. For every crap storm event there were 10 events that were stellar.
It was easy to see the stress he was under... the long hours.. the drama with his XW and her manipulation of the kids. So you look past the short fuse and the displays of anger that we all experience... and slowly over time continues to evolve.
He was an A Hole to my kid. My kid was in therapy because he just wanted to be liked by his stepdad. Why was my STBXH as arse to my kid? Because he wanted my kid to chose living with his dad so I would know th pain of losing my kid... because his kids were being with held from him. Yup... what a winner...
***Irony*** the last 3yr my STBXH had developed a stronger connection to my son. They chatted about all kinds of stuff. They were sharing a car so they communicated about that. I got on my kid about not doing something in regards to the puppy one night when I was exhausted... and my STBXH went in to S19 room to make sure he was ok and that I was overwhelmed with puppy. I was blown away by the relationship they finally had.
Which was then soured when STBXH left and never followed through with him about Graduation or taking him out to dinner. S19 acts tough but it hurt. He does not want me back with STBXH.
I just want to move forward... I have not slept in 3 days now. This is a lot to openly.admit.
